The Stimulating Paradox of Female Desire

man_kissing_a_woman1The New York Times Magazine recently ran a great piece called “What Do Women Want?” about research delving into the distinctions between male and female desire and arousal, among other areas.  Much of the piece focuses on the work of psychologist Meredith Chivers from Queens University who is doing research measuring arousal in men and women in response to watching images of various sex-participant combinations, and gauging verbalized versus bodily responses to the stimuli. 

The tools of her trade include plethysmographs, an apparatus that fits over the penis to measure swelling and a vaginal probe that measures genital blood flow; and bonobo ape porn.  Sound interesting?  One of her studies, described in the excerpt below, found men to be  predictable: they were aroused by pretty much what they said would arouse them.  Women, on the other hand, were anything but predictable.  From the article:

While the subjects watched on a computer screen, Chivers measured their arousal in two ways, objectively and subjectively. The participants sat in a brown leatherette La-Z-Boy chair in her small lab at the Center for Addiction and Mental Health, a prestigious psychiatric teaching hospital affiliated with the University of Toronto, where Chivers was a postdoctoral fellow and where I first talked with her about her research a few years ago. The genitals of the volunteers were connected to plethysmographs — for the men, an apparatus that fits over the penis and gauges its swelling; for the women, a little plastic probe that sits in the vagina and, by bouncing light off the vaginal walls, measures genital blood flow. An engorgement of blood spurs a lubricating process called vaginal transudation: the seeping of moisture through the walls. The participants were also given a keypad so that they could rate how aroused they felt.

Results for the men…

The men, on average, responded genitally in what Chivers terms “category specific” ways. Males who identified themselves as straight swelled while gazing at heterosexual or lesbian sex and while watching the masturbating and exercising women. They were mostly unmoved when the screen displayed only men. Gay males were aroused in the opposite categorical pattern. Any expectation that the animal sex would speak to something primitive within the men seemed to be mistaken; neither straights nor gays were stirred by the bonobos. And for the male participants, the subjective ratings on the keypad matched the readings of the plethysmograph. The men’s minds and genitals were in agreement.

And for the women…

All was different with the women. No matter what their self-proclaimed sexual orientation, they showed, on the whole, strong and swift genital arousal when the screen offered men with men, women with women and women with men. They responded objectively much more to the exercising woman than to the strolling man, and their blood flow rose quickly — and markedly, though to a lesser degree than during all the human scenes except the footage of the ambling, strapping man — as they watched the apes. And with the women, especially the straight women, mind and genitals seemed scarcely to belong to the same person. The readings from the plethysmograph and the keypad weren’t in much accord. During shots of lesbian coupling, heterosexual women reported less excitement than their vaginas indicated; watching gay men, they reported a great deal less; and viewing heterosexual intercourse, they reported much more. Among the lesbian volunteers, the two readings converged when women appeared on the screen. But when the films featured only men, the lesbians reported less engagement than the plethysmograph recorded. Whether straight or gay, the women claimed almost no arousal whatsoever while staring at the bonobos.



Filed under About Sexuality

3 responses to “The Stimulating Paradox of Female Desire

  1. I love the Times, of course, but as you say this made for rather livelier reading than I’m used to for the morning browse. Also of course an inevitable “What would Freud think?” moment. Otherwise, no comment from this discreet Y chromosome.

  2. Agnis Franklin

    I’d heard about that article, it made me do some thinking. I suppose it doesn’t change anything, but it’s still a damned interesting read, thanks for sharing.

  3. The stimulation have never ends and to enhance it during the sex is the best way to get the desired pleasure during the sexual activity.

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